And if I may conjecture a further objection,
love is nothing to do with destined perfection,
The connection is strengthened,
The affection simply grows over time,
Like a flower
or a mushroom
or a guinea pig
or a vine
or a sponge
or bigotry
...or a banana
And love is made more powerful
by the ongoing drama of shared experience,
and the synergy of a kind of symbiotic empathy, or... something-- Tim Minchin (If I Didn't Have You)