It's much easier to see barriers than the absence of them.
You don't notice things that aren't there, such as:
- not being felt up during a professional conversation
- not getting wolf whistles when you walk past a construction site.
- not being asked why you're looking at the expensive technical equipment instead of the "easy to use" stuff.
- not being told "you really wouldn't be interested in math."
- not hearing remarks about "stupid women drivers" when you take your car into a body shop.
- not being afraid of getting beaten into a pulp as you walk from a gay bar to your car.
- not having your car vandalised because of the rainbow flag on your bumper.
- not being offered a job because a manager is too freaked by his own misconceptions to be able to even consider working with you.
- not being told "nothing personal, but you're making other people uncomfortable."
- not being offered a lower salary because "you don't need as much."
And so on. It's hard to see absence of something as an advantage until you have to deal with its presence.-- Amanda Walker